Man is the leader of the house

Let me start this blog off by stating that I am not a male chauvinist pig. I am stating what I feel is wrong with married couples today, and such “wrongs” are filtering into the church, which is causing problems. We do not have men who are leaders in their households anymore because they are either afraid of their wives or they are unlearned. The Christian man must bring back the love of Christ in the household by being what God intended him to be. 

 I will use three scripture verses to make my argument and I trust you will accept them.

I Corinthians 11:3 in the English Standard verses says “But I want you to understand that the head of every man is Christ, the head of a wife is her husband, and the head of Christ is God.”

I Peter 3:7 in the English Standard verses says “Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.”

Genesis 3:16 in the English Standard verses says “To the woman he said, “I will surely multiply your pain in childbearing; in pain you shall bring forth children. Your desire shall be for your husband, and he shall rule over you”

Now, that we have them out of the way, let me make another disclaimer. I am referring in this blog to a husband and wife team where both parties are Christians. I am not referring to a situation where the wife is saved and the husband is not. However, that can be discussed at another time, but I still think Genesis 3:16 can still fill in for that situation as well. Getting back to my point. I was in the store the other day and I saw a friend of mine. We did our usual pleasantries and finished our conversation by talking about church. I inquired where he attended and his reaction surprised me. He told me the church and I said , “oh, I thought you were a (name of denomination).” His reply, “Well, I use to attend so and so church, but my wife threw such a hissy fit, that I just started going where she was going.” I asked him was he happy and he said no. I then felt like I had to say something and I did. I asked him how come he did that. His response was just as sad. I want to keep peace in my household.

Now, let’s understand this. The husband is the spiritual leader of the household. I did not say that, but the Word of God says that. Women, your husband is the spiritual leader of your household and you must and I strongly say it that way; you must adhere to the program that they are following. 

True story. My wife and I were the pastors of a certain church before the year 2000. We had a precious lady who attended, but her husband didn’t attend. He was lost and just never came to church. Neither me, nor the previous pastors could reach him. A new pastor moved into the town to pastor a different denominational church. That man said and I quote, “I will go to church if we go to that church.” The wife came to us and asked our opinion. Without reservation, we said GO Be with your husband in that church. That church believed in Christ and ours did too. She went to that church with her husband after attending our church we pastored for many years. He got saved and is now a leader in that church.

When the husband fails to be the leader of the house or rather, when he allows the wife to be the spiritual leader of the household, then the house is living wrong. The man of the house should step up to the plate and be the spiritual leader that God’s Word instructs him to be. I Corinthians 11:3 in the English Standard verses says “But I want you to understand that the head of every man is Christ, the head of a wife is her husband, and the head of Christ is God.”

Wives should submit themselves to their husbands according to the Word of God. This should not be a difficult task if you are serving Him (Christ) faithfully. You may think it is difficult, but once you walk with Christ and follow his commands, then I share that your home will be different.

One last story. My wife is a preacher. She is a great preacher. When she was a teenager many years ago (sorry hun), she was preaching. There was a woman in the church whose husband would not allow his wife to come and here my wife preach.  The woman apologized to my wife who was a teenager then and my wife said no problem. The woman honored her husband. He is saved today.

So, to all you wives out there and to all you husbands out there. Are you following the Word of God in truthfulness or are you trying to please your household?